waltondammerung

Now I'll do some math

My baby brother, who is three years my junior (that makes him 23, folks, so you can guess how old I am), has had his mind boggled by the number of people he knows who have gotten married recently. Then there's the other side of the coin. I am beginning to hear many people my age bemoaning the number of people they know who are getting divorced. Now, all of those people had to have gotten married fairly young to be getting divorced while they are still so young. I hope, for my own sake, that it has nothing to do with how young these poor couples were when they married. But I just can't imagine, beyond abuse or infidelity, what would drive someone to get a divorce after such a short amount of time. Josh and I have been married just over three years, and I feel like we're just now starting to really understand how to live harmoniously. Of course I say that every few months or so. When we've been married fifty years, I'll probably still be saying, "Aha! We've finally hit our stride!" It's not that we get along badly. There are just so many little epiphanies, so many of those "Aha!" moments, when you realize something about yourself, the other person, or marriage in general that will help you get along that much better.

I hope never to be in the position, but I can at least sort of understand giving up on a marriage after years and years of not getting along. I don't understand giving up after only two or three. How could you possibly know everything it takes to get along with the person after such a short amount of time? Can you even honestly say that you've given it a good try?